Oh, boy.
We are back together again.
We had so much fun the first time
we decided to bring our best buddies back.
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Welcome to another,
hopefully rousing edition of What's
Good with John and Joyce, available
on all the streaming platforms.
I'm John Cadillac
Seville from iHeart radio,
and I got my friend Joyce Logan
with me as well.
We teamed up on this thing a while back,
and we've had so much fun doing this.
And just think about it.
We got together in a coffee shop
last year, last spring or summer,
and I said, I want to do a podcast.
And Joyce said, me too.
And then we almost at the same time
said, let's do one together.
And now look what's going on here.
We're doing that show.
And it's just been an absolute
it's been an absolute joy
to be working with you, Joyce.
So again Sharon welcome back Joyce.
Best buddy
Jake my best buddy here hanging out.
And it's just been a blast.
So the first time we got together
we kind of pretty much introduced
you guys let you know how we met you and
how important your friendship has been.
Now we're going to talk about
the importance of of wellness.
And when you have a really good friend
that can really help your health,
I mean, when you have somebody in
your life that really makes you feel good,
makes you laugh,
but also tells you what you need to hear
sometimes when you don't want to hear it.
And that's important,
you know, being blunt,
psychiatrist that I knew said to me,
he was dealing with someone,
with a tough case.
And, I also do some therapy work and
and he said to me, you know,
if people just had one good friend,
they can really do talk therapy with.
Because that's
what a lot of people just need.
They need someone to hear them,
and somebody not to judge them
and to let them express themselves.
He said half the time people wouldn't
need to come to me, have that one friend.
And that's stuck with me
for many, many years since he said that.
And I thought, how true that is.
That's a really good point, Joyce.
And again, it's very freeing.
We had said this in our first episode
together, but it's very freeing.
It's very empowering
to have that friend and just knowing
that you can pick up the phone
and call them,
or meet with them for a cup of coffee
and just put it all out there
and know that they're just
going to be there for you
without again, judging you, you know?
But I also want to address the people
who maybe have lost their friends,
maybe a little older in life,
maybe had a couple of good friends
who are no longer around,
or they moved or something happened
and it's not over,
you know, don't sit there alone.
You can make a
new friend and have that bond
almost just as deep.
It doesn't matter that you can't reminisce
about, you know, the old days.
You can hear their story
from the old days,
you know, share with them,
like you and I were speaking about.
Some people get together and they bond
about aches and pains, right?
I know I was I ran a coffee shop
I go to every now and then
that same group of people, 3 or 4 people,
and they talk about the aches and pains
and, you know, that's okay,
you know, whatever.
But they seem to be having fun
talking about their aches and pains.
That's right.
And let me tell you about my meds
that I'm on today.
Oh. Well,
but the same thing I can recall as a kid,
you know, talking about our fun
and our games and parties and things
that we're going to share together,
that's going to be positive and fun.
And now
we talk about what medications or,
what we what we do to stay healthy.
And quite frankly, I'm I'm blessed.
I, I have very, very good
genetic background.
My mother made it to almost 100.
Yeah, she
she wasn't, yeah.
She didn't die from an illness.
She just went to sleep and didn't wake up.
Oh, no.
Yes. Or or to.
It was just a terrific thing.
So when, when people would ask her
her secret,
she would always say, olé and red wine.
So, you know, I'm good.
I'm good with the red wine.
I just started using,
a product on my skin also.
That really kind of helps.
It makes a big difference
because I feel better
and, I am, dealing with a company
that John knows
very well that, we
we eat the right things.
They teach us all the right
vitamins to take and,
products to use to,
stay clean and healthy
without affecting our bodies
in any negative way.
And,
I certainly, over the past years,
have lost friends
that, probably weren't too careful
with themselves and with their,
their behavior and,
some of the food that they eat or,
many people are on a lot of medications
and maybe they don't have to be
if they are dealing with their bodies
the right way.
So, I've been blessed that way,
that's for sure.
Enjoy. Should I talk about that a lot?
Because we really are into the fitness
and wellness realm.
You know as well about that.
We we are what we consume.
You know, we are what we read,
we are what we eat.
And, we talk about our, you know, regimen
in the morning, so to speak.
I mean, I read it in the morning,
and I know I like to get up in the morning
and do my prayerful work early to know.
But you but you do you but prayerful work.
Well, but I'll do my Pilates.
I'll be my yoga.
I do my breathing exercises
before I hit the gym.
Very, very strict with nutrition.
And it's really served me
well, you know, over the years, too.
And I see a lot of my peers
and they'll see me all the time.
So how do you do it?
I haven't seen you in 20 years.
And you haven't.
You know, you look the same.
I mean, what do you what do you do?
And like you said, James, a lot of it is
genetics, but it's also about what you do.
Keeping a positive attitude, making the
right choices, at least most of the time.
You don't have to be a purist,
but you're also going to attract people.
You know, we we like like minded people
and you're going to attract those people.
So if you lost a friend or whatever,
you're going to make
a whole bunch of new friends
by putting yourself out there.
And they can be great conversations,
not necessarily about the major taking,
but about music or about what's going on
with your favorite TV shows.
Or, what movies did you go see?
Talk about positive things.
Where do you go to go see
you in the green, a concert that night.
It could be about uplifting things.
Positive attitude is essential.
It is essential.
You know, life is about 10%
of what happens to you and 90% of
how you respond to it. Excellent. James.
Glad you said that because it made me
realize that our conversation, Sharon,
it's never negative.
You know, even if it starts out
with all this happened,
we always think about something.
I mean, it's you find the humor,
you find the humor. Yes.
Obviously we shouldn't,
Yeah.
Like, yeah, yeah, we have to laugh
about it, but think I think the.
And sometimes you laugh so hard
you are crying.
But but but in a good way.
But, Jesse, every time we get together,
you know, as couples,
we never, ever talk about aches and pains
or any
that we're always talking
about joyful things.
Uplifting things.
No, no.
Same here, same here. Blessed.
Good for you.
Sure she was.
Yeah.
And spiritually, that's another story.
I mean, like, that really keeps
you focused on, staying healthy
because,
spiritual mind is, pretty healthy mind.
And, I'm very fortunate to be part
of a church, in my town, Guilford.
That is, been a blessing to me
for the last 30 years,
and, I enjoy it very much.
That's the vineyard
shoreline vineyard church.
And it's a small church. Pastor Chris.
Church.
But, I love it.
I enjoy it very much.
And spiritually,
it just keeps your mind and your
your mind healthy,
and your body just follows.
And. Sure.
And I know you're in the same church
there.
You and like I am that was just
in it's a different building
from where the church started.
The church started.
And you have an understanding
that used to be, I believe, a fish market.
And then,
then moved to Hamden and then
because they had two buildings
and there was one that was smaller.
And when they decided
it was time for a larger sanctuary,
they added to,
and so and now it's it's a great place.
What's the name of the church have
and give it a shout out.
Absolutely. Yes. Yeah.
I got to share something
about, Sharon's wedding.
You may have.
Was that when you were dancing
on the table, Joyce?
That time?
Oh, that was another one.
Oh, okay.
So, yeah.
So at your wedding,
I'm I'm, you know, one of the bridesmaids.
Well, insert
that picture, you know, into this
into this segment.
Okay.
And Sharon's
mother was a classiest woman, Evelyn.
And she was right on top of everything.
So as one of the bridesmaids,
I was the only white lady of a,
like a life, right? Right.
Yeah, yeah. So,
but Evelyn wanted everything to match,
and I have got the wrong size
pearl earrings, and she said, no, no, no,
you know, and I said, oh, I'm sorry,
because she meant, like,
everything down to the detail. Wow.
As we walk down the aisle
with these lovely gray dresses
and she said, and your stockings
have to match, they have to be this color.
So I got that color.
And the was standing there
and she looked me up and down and I said,
Evelyn,
there's nothing I can do about the color.
Hahahahahahaha.
That is funny.
But again, laughter, laughter.
Oh that's funny.
It's just so funny.
And then your grandmother, you know, that
was sitting there and she was so kind.
You know that wonderful lady.
Right, right.
And that was her first grandchild.
Oh you mean the end. Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
You could do you know what.
But but Joyce you were saying before about
you know
some people can be very lonely
that are watching this right now.
And they wish they,
they wish they had someone in their life.
But you have to really kind of
put yourself out there a little bit.
You have to be a friend to. Exactly.
So just
and there's so easy with social media now
or just going out to church functions
or functions you see
listed on social boards or whatever,
and just put yourself out there.
There's so many opportunities
to make a friend
and somebody is looking for you too.
Somebody is looking for you.
You still have a lot to offer.
That's
why God breathed breath in your lungs
this morning
that you have a purpose, right?
You know,
I lost my wife about 16 years ago, and,
I was celibate for a while.
I, hung around with some bachelor
guys on a beach house in Madison,
living pretty large by myself,
and I was okay.
I didn't date,
and I have a client that was, selling
advertising, and he came in one day.
He was talking to
me about buying an ad, and,
he said,
you know, there's a girl that I work with.
He says,
I think she'd be a good match for you.
I said, Don, I'm
not interested in a relationship.
Thank you.
I said, my wife passed away
three years ago.
I'm living large with a bachelor, guys.
I had him on the beach at Madison. Happy?
I'm good. Leave me alone.
Leave me alone.
I said thank you.
I'll call you. But I bought the ad.
Well, a few weeks goes by
and I run into Don's wife
and she says, oh, hi, how are you doing?
I said, great, I said, she says,
by the way, do you ever go and meet Nikki?
Always.
And I said,
I forgot to send that check for that ad.
She said, perfect opportunity.
Why don't you just go ahead and go,
come and get a check.
Now. It was a hot July afternoon.
I was not looking to try to impress anyone
in any way.
Shorts flip flop.
So I go home, grab a check, and I run over
to where she works, and I walk in.
I only see her employer.
I don't see her right away, but,
he he says, can I help you?
And I said, well, I'm here to see Nikki.
I figured I she gets the check.
I didn't know I could have just handed him
the check.
But the Lord had some assumptions.
Yes, he did.
So, yeah.
So here's a little petition, and she says,
can I help you?
And she looked at me and I said, wow.
I said, Don, totally. You were nice.
But he didn't tell me or church.
So she laughed. She's very quick.
And she came right back and she said,
well that's a good one.
She said if you
got another
one I'll put the boots on right now.
Hahaha.
No seriously, he told me that you wouldn't
mind fooling around
with a hairdresser from Gilford.
So now she knows a little bit about me
because he told her about me also.
Yeah, so she says
she says you're funny.
I said funny ha ha. Or funny? Strange.
And she said it.
I said, I don't know,
I just thought it takes her.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She's very pointed.
She's great, she's great.
No B.S., I said, listen,
they have this jazz on Sunday nights
at the Thai restaurant,
and I said, I'd like to take you.
She says,
I love Thai food. I'd like to go.
I said, how on Sunday?
She says, well,
I can't, I have a family commitment.
She says, why don't why don't we do
so next week, next following Sunday?
And I said, well,
I can't, I'm going to be out of town.
So I said,
well, we'll make a date for three weeks.
She says, I'll meet you there.
Very safe, you know.
So now, after three years,
I'm finally interested in
somebody to spend some time with.
So we make this date for three weeks.
But I'm puzzled because, I'm
excited about seeing somebody new
and I called her the next day
on some pretense about the advertisement
that she's explaining it to me.
And as she's explaining, I said, Nikki,
that's not really why I called.
I don't want to wait three weeks to see
you give me a day this week
that you're available.
She said, well,
I could be available on Saturday night.
I said, great, I said,
do you like Italian food?
She says, I love Italian food.
Terrific.
I, pick you up, say 630, and we'll make
a reservation at a nice restaurant.
She said, well, why don't you come at six?
She says, we'll have a glass of wine.
Oh, I'll meet you there now.
A glass of wine
half hour early into her home.
Well, of course, women are first.
Get to meet somebody for the first time
to go on a date with somebody.
What do they do?
They go home, call their best friend
and start asking questions.
Well,
she did a little survey and found out
that,
he's got a little business in town, and,
he lost his wife a few years ago, but,
you know, he's he's nice guy.
He's not a creep. Yeah.
So she's comfortable
enough to invite me into her home.
I show up with a bottle of wine
and a dozen roses,
glass jars,
and went to a nice Italian restaurant
in New Haven.
Afterwards,
we went for a lovely walk on the beach
under a moonlit August sky.
You know, you can't
hallmark movie, hallmark movie.
Yep. It is, it is.
And they've been together ever since,
and we socialized with them all the time.
They're just a wonderful couple together.
13 years.
Yeah. We're engaged.
Yeah, they've been engaged for 13 years.
When are you going to friggin
make it legal?
Jesse?
Yeah.
That's right. Put a ring on it. Exactly.
Well,
she does have a right there, right? Right.
I didn't ask her to marry me,
but I asked her
if she would be my girl
for the rest of my life.
Hey, the bottom line is,
you guys are together.
Whatever you decide to do.
Absolutely.
So snag somebody in my life
that keeps me healthy and vice versa. Yep.
That's my friends. No one.
No one says I got something
for you to meet.
Joyce.
My husband passed away five years ago
and everyone just looks at me like that.
I think you're past their age limit or.
No, no, you're never are.
No. You're ageless. Joyce
at age 81.
Yeah.
Last time for us. That's right.
Yeah.
My father.
You know what? God's
not God's not going to let you.
God is not going to let you settle it.
God's not going to let you settle, right?
You shouldn't have to settle to see it.
Well, I like when people you meet people
the way
your friends say
you should meet this person rather than,
I know a lot of people afraid to go online
because, you know, I'm.
Yeah.
You know, like a friend says,
this person is a good right?
Yeah.
You trust that?
You trust that reference, so to speak.
Yeah.
Passed away three years prior, and,
he was ten years older than mom.
So we started to see signs of,
depression with mom.
And we suggested
that she go to Florida for the winter
because she has some widowed friends
down there.
And we thought that
that would be a nice environment for her.
Well, a couple of weeks later,
she decided to go.
A couple of weeks later, she calls me
and she says, the lady upstairs wants me.
This man. I said, meet this man.
She said,
she says, you know me. I love your father.
I can't be bothered with a relationship
at this stage of the game.
I'm 81. I don't need a man in my life.
I said, mom, relax.
If the guy's a jerk,
you never have to see him again.
If he's a nice man, somebody
to have a conversation
with once in a while,
you're not going to marry him.
Later. They were married.
Well, on that she say okay.
Yeah. The man worshiped the ground.
She walked off.
They were married for nearly 20 years.
He died at age 99, and mom dated for
another four and a half years after that.
Wow, wow.
They did, they did. Yes. Yes.
Sorry I've ever seen that. Great.
Yeah. It gives you hope, doesn't it?
And that's
what it's all about. It's all about hope.
Right.
And again,
through a friend. Right.
You know, it was just
it started out as a friendship and for,
you know, it, you know, it was,
they got married on Friday the 13th. Wow.
There was very special of it.
It was wonderful. Wow.
Yeah. Wow.
And you told her every day
how much he loved her
with that.
Yeah. Yes.
It was
wonderful. Was a blessing a real blessing.
And as a son you love to see that.
Oh absolutely.
Yeah. Best man. Wow. Yeah.
That's so awesome.
It does, it does.
Yeah.
You know and I think because I had such
a great husband and great relationship
and someone told me
every day that he loved me,
you know, until he didn't know who I was.
And said Alzheimer's.
But, like,
I think you mentioned it once, John.
It's a credit to the person that you want
and the person in your life
because they have that bond. Yes.
That's my friend.
Yes.
You know everything.
And you miss that.
Yeah.
I think if I didn't have a great
relationship, I would say I'm done right.
You know?
But let's just say I am open to the
possibilities.
I believe that
without question.
I mean, I worked with your with Wayne
and many times when I did weddings
and he, also photographed, you know,
my first wife, my by my late wife, Darcy.
Sharon and I were at your wedding.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So I was married for 23 years.
We were together for 25 years.
And, Darcy had a long battle.
Yeah, yeah, had a long, long battle.
And, so much like what you went through,
James to.
I mean, we had a chance to prepare for it.
It wasn't like a sudden thing,
but still doesn't make it any less.
You went through the same thing, Joy.
It was it was long.
Yeah.
And, Darcy was sick
for a long period of time as well.
But when she passed away,
I never got angry with God,
realizing that I never owned her,
that she was on loan to me.
None of us own each other.
But I knew that I was,
open to dating again.
And within six months,
I was out dating a lot.
Over the summer because I knew that
I had way too much love to give.
And it was a and it was honoring Darcy
because I had such a great relationship
with her.
And even,
you know, with Patty, my, my, my wife
now of God, 17 years
I married the love of my life twice.
Twice.
I urge
everyone to look at your Facebook page
because he has a picture with his now
wife.
Patty. Patty, her daughter.
Yeah.
Lindsey and Darcy picture.
And that's something, yeah.
At the Oakdale Theater.
It was a it was when Brooks and Dunn
and Trace Adkins
were there for the opening
of the new Oakdale Theater and, you know,
and and Patty,
my wife now had won a contest
to go to the concert, and Darcy and I,
my first wife and I were there as well.
So, Patty was one of the winners.
She was there with Lindsay,
and we all had dinner together backstage,
and my late wife
took a picture of my now wife
that was on her living room
table for years.
Imagine that.
So I mean,
that was all orchestrated
behind the scenes by God.
Anyway,
so I really believe that that was destiny.
It was destiny.
Was destiny.
Nope. He doesn't make mistakes at all.
But I know that we're all never get up,
never get up, never, ever, ever.
If it happen for James,
you know it happen for me.
It can happen for you.
You know, and say yes to things.
If somebody invites you
or go play with that check.
But sure.
Be on a podcast.
Yeah.
And the whole thing is
you can always make a new friend.
And Patty
and I have always said that before,
even when I was dating, before
somebody wanted to get together.
I always say yes
because I can always gain a new friend.
Like you said, with your mom before,
you could always go out there
and just chat or have dinner,
and if it doesn't work out, you move on.
But I'm always going to say yes
to making a new friend, right?
You can never, never have enough
new friends or acquaintances.
You know, I
recently, not that recently, actually.
For the last 6 or 7 years,
I've been singing with a gospel group,
here on the shoreline.
It's called Shoreline Gospel. And,
we have two concerts a year.
It's run by a wonderful,
wonderful lead singer.
Her name is Angela Clements.
She works with Michael Jackson,
Aretha Franklin, among others.
She's phenomenal, phenomenal,
and she's a phenomenal person.
Yes, yes.
Yep. And, she's put together, fabulous,
songs for us to sing at these concerts.
We sing together at one of the churches
in Guilford or in Madison,
another one in Branford occasionally.
And we even have a, a Jewish, church
that we go to in, at Christmastime
and do a mini concert.
And, so I love to sing.
My mother was a singer, and, she gave me
that blessing as well as my sister
and her six of us in the family.
And, we love to sing.
And, I'm enjoying this, gospel concert.
I've met so many new friends
there, so many amazing things.
We just had a concert.
I think it was about three weeks ago
in Guilford at the, Congregational Church.
And Angela
brings the house down from the church.
It's incredible.
And gospel music is just just amazing.
It's a little different than,
regular songs that you might hear, but
beautiful stuff.
Hey, I love the energy, I love it,
I love it, too.
I love the energy.
And the thing is, like you were saying
before, you make a lot of new friends.
So that's if you're looking
for a friend out there, get involved.
You love music, get involved in a gospel
course, do some community theater,
go out there, do something.
There's all these programs
with the rec centers in your town.
There's so many bus trips.
Yeah, bus
trips to go see a show in New York City
together or something.
Yeah, or a movie night.
So many great, great way.
So you don't have to go through
life alone.
And that scares a lot of people
to be alone, you know, especially if you.
Yeah.
So we pray for you
that you find that special person too.
Because we certainly did, Joyce, didn't
we got lucky.
We got we got lucky here.
We have found the special person.
But how about our special friends
right here
that came back for a second edition.
Bless.
Yeah. Same here.
I mean, you're,
Yeah.
Thank you. Yep.
Happy together baby, like the turtles.
You know,
but thank you so much for, you know,
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You've always got a friend in us here.
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